Perfect = Illusion
Problem = Illusion
My Conclusion:
The meaning of life = Whatever you desire and dream (illusion)...
Might as well have sweet dreams
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Letter to a Shrink
Dear Shrink,
Why do you categorize me and put me into your little box?
Why does one thought I have mean so much to you?
I might be on the rag today when I tell you I want to smack my co-worker's face. If I was 5, I just might have smacked her face.
I will be off the rag tomorrow and feeling much better. Does that make me bi-polar? You better hand me a questioneer to make sure.
I know I sound like I don't like you very much, you are just doing your job...
normal, abnormal, potAYto, potAHto
I came to see you, the first step is admitting I have a problem, right?
What if I don't have a problem? What if my only problem is thinking I had a problem? Maybe I dwelled on having a problem so long that one appeared? That must be the true problem. See, I admitted there is a problem.
Now go away, your fired.
Why do you categorize me and put me into your little box?
Why does one thought I have mean so much to you?
I might be on the rag today when I tell you I want to smack my co-worker's face. If I was 5, I just might have smacked her face.
I will be off the rag tomorrow and feeling much better. Does that make me bi-polar? You better hand me a questioneer to make sure.
I know I sound like I don't like you very much, you are just doing your job...
normal, abnormal, potAYto, potAHto
I came to see you, the first step is admitting I have a problem, right?
What if I don't have a problem? What if my only problem is thinking I had a problem? Maybe I dwelled on having a problem so long that one appeared? That must be the true problem. See, I admitted there is a problem.
Now go away, your fired.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Confessions of a Kindergarten Vigilante
(note: some names have been changed to protect the identity of those involved)
I would like to raise my son in such a way that he will be grow up to be a kind & caring sort of guy. So when he gets in trouble at school, I feel it is my duty as a Mom to get to the bottom of the issue.
At school, they have these cards they move when they have an occurrence. The card starts out on green, and if they have misbehaved, they move the card to yellow (that is a warning). If they misbehave further, they move their card to white and get a time out. If they misbehave a third time, they move their card to red and get sent to the counselor that helps them come up with an action plan and an oops report.
Thankfully, we haven't seen a red card in a while, however, very recently our son came home several days in a row, reporting yellow cards. This concerned me, and I wondered if it had something to do with his "best friend" leaving to go to another school.
As we were winding down for bed-time, I inquired about his consecutive yellow cards, saying gently, "honey, is there something that has been bothering you at school lately?"
He replied, "well, I could use another snack in my lunch".
"I could arrange that. Have you been feeling hungry at school?", I asked, knowing this may be true, yet he was stalling from the real question. "You've been getting a lot of yellow cards, lately, does it mostly happen after lunch?"
"yeah, I know", he said softly "no, its not just after lunch".
"So what has been going on Hon?", I asked with genuine concern.
I knew he had gotten the first days yellow card from putting glue on a chair. He told me he couldn't remember what happened the next day, and the third day it was for crawling around on the carpet when he should have been doing something else. Then he said, "do you want to know, honestly?"
"Well, yes, I do want to know, honestly, I always want to know honestly", I answered with anticipation.
"I was trying to glue George to the chair".
"Oh.", I said, trying really hard not to giggle. Seeing a slight smirk in my face, he started to smile, as I continued, "though that might seem like a funny thing to do, its not very nice, why would you want to glue George to the chair?"
"Because they did it on SpongeBob, somebody got glued to a log" (I am sure he told me the character's name, but I cannot remember it)
My keen mom insights could see through his endeavor to blame his actions on television, and I replied, "well, you know, that is exactly why I don't like SpongeBob and we don't watch it here, at home. Maybe I will have to tell the daycare not to allow anyone to watch SpongeBob. You know T.V. is make believe, and I know you know its wrong to glue people to chairs, don't you?
"Yeah.", he mumbled.
"So why WOULD you glue George to the chair?", I inquired again, inquisitively.
"Because he is pretty bad to everyone, and I thought I would teach him a lesson by being bad to him and gluing him to the chair", he replied, in a matter of fact tone.
"I see... did the teacher realize you were trying to glue him to the chair?"
"No, I think she thought I was making a mess. I had to clean up all the glue, and it was hard to do".
"You know", I said, "the glue they have at school would have taken way too long to dry, you wouldn't have glued him to the chair anyway."
We then had a short discussion about bullies, why/how bullies might have become bullies, and how dealing with bullies by gluing them to seats, probably isn't the best way to deal with bullies.
Hopefully this was the beginning AND the end of his vigilante ways.
I would like to raise my son in such a way that he will be grow up to be a kind & caring sort of guy. So when he gets in trouble at school, I feel it is my duty as a Mom to get to the bottom of the issue.
At school, they have these cards they move when they have an occurrence. The card starts out on green, and if they have misbehaved, they move the card to yellow (that is a warning). If they misbehave further, they move their card to white and get a time out. If they misbehave a third time, they move their card to red and get sent to the counselor that helps them come up with an action plan and an oops report.
Thankfully, we haven't seen a red card in a while, however, very recently our son came home several days in a row, reporting yellow cards. This concerned me, and I wondered if it had something to do with his "best friend" leaving to go to another school.
As we were winding down for bed-time, I inquired about his consecutive yellow cards, saying gently, "honey, is there something that has been bothering you at school lately?"
He replied, "well, I could use another snack in my lunch".
"I could arrange that. Have you been feeling hungry at school?", I asked, knowing this may be true, yet he was stalling from the real question. "You've been getting a lot of yellow cards, lately, does it mostly happen after lunch?"
"yeah, I know", he said softly "no, its not just after lunch".
"So what has been going on Hon?", I asked with genuine concern.
I knew he had gotten the first days yellow card from putting glue on a chair. He told me he couldn't remember what happened the next day, and the third day it was for crawling around on the carpet when he should have been doing something else. Then he said, "do you want to know, honestly?"
"Well, yes, I do want to know, honestly, I always want to know honestly", I answered with anticipation.
"I was trying to glue George to the chair".
"Oh.", I said, trying really hard not to giggle. Seeing a slight smirk in my face, he started to smile, as I continued, "though that might seem like a funny thing to do, its not very nice, why would you want to glue George to the chair?"
"Because they did it on SpongeBob, somebody got glued to a log" (I am sure he told me the character's name, but I cannot remember it)
My keen mom insights could see through his endeavor to blame his actions on television, and I replied, "well, you know, that is exactly why I don't like SpongeBob and we don't watch it here, at home. Maybe I will have to tell the daycare not to allow anyone to watch SpongeBob. You know T.V. is make believe, and I know you know its wrong to glue people to chairs, don't you?
"Yeah.", he mumbled.
"So why WOULD you glue George to the chair?", I inquired again, inquisitively.
"Because he is pretty bad to everyone, and I thought I would teach him a lesson by being bad to him and gluing him to the chair", he replied, in a matter of fact tone.
"I see... did the teacher realize you were trying to glue him to the chair?"
"No, I think she thought I was making a mess. I had to clean up all the glue, and it was hard to do".
"You know", I said, "the glue they have at school would have taken way too long to dry, you wouldn't have glued him to the chair anyway."
We then had a short discussion about bullies, why/how bullies might have become bullies, and how dealing with bullies by gluing them to seats, probably isn't the best way to deal with bullies.
Hopefully this was the beginning AND the end of his vigilante ways.
Friday, December 30, 2011
on the topic of true love
Ah, True Love....
Some of us have found it,
Some of us have longed for it,
Some of us still long for it...
Some think they have found it,
Some have...
The former want to know how the latter did it, and how do you know?
I have walked the desert of lovelessness,
I have walked in the forest of love's illusions,
I have danced in the joy of real love.
True love isn't finding someone to complete you.
I don't think you find true love until you are already complete.
Rather, I feel you find true love when you are close to realizing your completeness, or at least, are not trying to fill the void of your illusion of incompleteness.
True love is a compliment, not a completion.
True love doesn't ride up on a white horse with the wind blowing in his/her hair.
True love is for the daring, the fearless, the bold.
If you ask, "where do I find my true love?", I will say, look within...
find your true love, yourself,
only then can you find a companion to share in your journey.
If you don't appreciate yourself, why should someone else?
Some of us have found it,
Some of us have longed for it,
Some of us still long for it...
Some think they have found it,
Some have...
The former want to know how the latter did it, and how do you know?
I have walked the desert of lovelessness,
I have walked in the forest of love's illusions,
I have danced in the joy of real love.
True love isn't finding someone to complete you.
I don't think you find true love until you are already complete.
Rather, I feel you find true love when you are close to realizing your completeness, or at least, are not trying to fill the void of your illusion of incompleteness.
True love is a compliment, not a completion.
True love doesn't ride up on a white horse with the wind blowing in his/her hair.
True love is for the daring, the fearless, the bold.
If you ask, "where do I find my true love?", I will say, look within...
find your true love, yourself,
only then can you find a companion to share in your journey.
If you don't appreciate yourself, why should someone else?
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Children's concerts for many years to come
When my husband and I had basic cable T.V. and were childless several years ago, we used to sit and watch the local channel that aired the School Holiday programs. They were kind of boring, but it was fun to laugh about them. You could always tell what kids wanted to be there, and which ones would have rather stayed home. We knew some day that we would be attending these kind of concerts in person.
Since my son is in Kindergarten, we went to one of his first of his Holiday Concerts today.
Many eager parents waited for their Child's debut performance.
Guess whose child stole the show.
The funny thing about our son, is, I don't believe his intent is to steal the lime-light. He was so overjoyed to see his smiling parents in the audience, that he couldn't contain his excitement.
The Kindergardeners stepped up onto stage and started singing. Some looked bored, others looked dazed, ours was trying to give his parents a show. He was clearly nervous, wringing his hands at the beginning, yet grinning ear to ear. He danced when the others stood still, and gestured with more emphasis. At one point the teacher's aid looked over at me, and we shared a silent chuckle. I heard the lady next to me say, "that little boy in the orange shirt is so cute!".
As the other grades stepped up to sing, and the others sat back down, he couldn't stop waving to us from where he sat. What a proud day for a Mom, what a proud day for her son, probably for Dad too, even though he doesn't show his zeal as readily.
Since my son is in Kindergarten, we went to one of his first of his Holiday Concerts today.
Many eager parents waited for their Child's debut performance.
Guess whose child stole the show.
The funny thing about our son, is, I don't believe his intent is to steal the lime-light. He was so overjoyed to see his smiling parents in the audience, that he couldn't contain his excitement.
The Kindergardeners stepped up onto stage and started singing. Some looked bored, others looked dazed, ours was trying to give his parents a show. He was clearly nervous, wringing his hands at the beginning, yet grinning ear to ear. He danced when the others stood still, and gestured with more emphasis. At one point the teacher's aid looked over at me, and we shared a silent chuckle. I heard the lady next to me say, "that little boy in the orange shirt is so cute!".
As the other grades stepped up to sing, and the others sat back down, he couldn't stop waving to us from where he sat. What a proud day for a Mom, what a proud day for her son, probably for Dad too, even though he doesn't show his zeal as readily.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Ah, Winter
I love winter, the snow on the ground is beautiful,
I just need to remember how to stay warm
Time to get out the long underwear and thick socks,
Time for footy pajamas (I do love those!),
hot tea, long workouts,
baking in the oven more,
flannel sheets under thick comforters.
A warm kitty-cat on my lap..
I just need to remember how to stay warm
Time to get out the long underwear and thick socks,
Time for footy pajamas (I do love those!),
hot tea, long workouts,
baking in the oven more,
flannel sheets under thick comforters.
A warm kitty-cat on my lap..
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Thanksgiving Salad & Workout
One thing I am extremely thankful for this Thanksgiving is my health.
This time last year I was at least 20 pounds, maybe 30 pounds heavier. The year before that, even more so. I will no longer use the Holidays as an excuse to become unhealthy.
I had salad and fruit for my Thanksgiving meal, and it was delicious. I might have eaten just a slice too much watermelon, though! Now I am thinking about my workout tonight. Since I just started Dr. Fuhrman's 6 week holiday challenge, I thought about maybe doing Jillian Michael's Ripped in 30 dvd all the way through, but having knee issues, I find some of the exercises hard on my knees when doing them every single day. I am thinking about alternating "Ripped in 30" with 6 week 6 pack every other day and doing some yoga either afterwards or in the morning. I love the cardio, but I also love the stretch that yoga gives me, especially on my leg muscles.
Soapbox:
I find that many people often don't care enough about their health to throw away their unhealthy habits. Maybe it is because they don't think they are worthy enough to live the wonderful, healthy life they should be living. I know this may have been the case for me, the more weight I gained the less I cared about my appearance. I dressed sloppier, and continued to eat junk. I guess one day I just woke up, looked in the mirror and quit lying to myself. I would say, "it's so hard to lose weight", "I don't know how".
There IS a quick fix to losing weight. It doesn't come in expensive pills and surgeries. It comes in eating healthy and exercising. It comes from not lying to yourself about what foods are healthy. It comes from educating yourself about eating healthy, and it comes from living that life day in and day out. Sure, it means you can't have a candy bar every time you go through the check-out line at the grocery store. But its worth it, I am worth it, you are worth it.
This time last year I was at least 20 pounds, maybe 30 pounds heavier. The year before that, even more so. I will no longer use the Holidays as an excuse to become unhealthy.
I had salad and fruit for my Thanksgiving meal, and it was delicious. I might have eaten just a slice too much watermelon, though! Now I am thinking about my workout tonight. Since I just started Dr. Fuhrman's 6 week holiday challenge, I thought about maybe doing Jillian Michael's Ripped in 30 dvd all the way through, but having knee issues, I find some of the exercises hard on my knees when doing them every single day. I am thinking about alternating "Ripped in 30" with 6 week 6 pack every other day and doing some yoga either afterwards or in the morning. I love the cardio, but I also love the stretch that yoga gives me, especially on my leg muscles.
Soapbox:
I find that many people often don't care enough about their health to throw away their unhealthy habits. Maybe it is because they don't think they are worthy enough to live the wonderful, healthy life they should be living. I know this may have been the case for me, the more weight I gained the less I cared about my appearance. I dressed sloppier, and continued to eat junk. I guess one day I just woke up, looked in the mirror and quit lying to myself. I would say, "it's so hard to lose weight", "I don't know how".
There IS a quick fix to losing weight. It doesn't come in expensive pills and surgeries. It comes in eating healthy and exercising. It comes from not lying to yourself about what foods are healthy. It comes from educating yourself about eating healthy, and it comes from living that life day in and day out. Sure, it means you can't have a candy bar every time you go through the check-out line at the grocery store. But its worth it, I am worth it, you are worth it.
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